Updated September, 2011
In discussing plastic surgery and other cosmetic procedures with young adults, ages 13-19, a different set of factors related to self-esteem come into play.
It's imperative to understand why a teen wants cosmetic surgery, and then, if the decision to move forward is made, to guide their expectations to be realistic about both the process and its likely outcome.
For most parents, this topic presents a serious dilemma since their first inclination is to simply say, "No." While parents are understandably worried about the danger to their child, this is not a request that should be taken lightly and most definitely not to be ignored.
Generally serious issues of self-image and self-esteem often lie at the heart of a teen's request to have a cosmetic procedure. These issues must all be fully addressed.
Parents should understand that there are circumstances under which cosmetic procedures for teenagers are both appropriate and life-enhancing. However there are as many bad reasons to agree to allow a young adult to seek cosmetic surgery, as there are good ones.
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When teenagers ask their parents to pay for or to allow them to undergo some form of cosmetic surgery or non-invasive cosmetic augmentation, the motivation is generally even more directly tied to self-esteem than is the case with adults.
Adolescence is an awkward time of coming into your own. Teenagers often see perceived physical flaws as glaring and life-destroying. Interestingly, adults generally seek cosmetic surgery to make themselves stand out. Teenagers, on the other hand, desperately want to blend in with their peers.
Consequently, while there are many bad reasons to agree to allow a young adult to seek cosmetic surgery, there are just as many good ones.
If the procedure will allow the teen to have greater self-confidence and self-esteem, and to overcome problems with social withdrawal and isolation, the benefits will likely far exceed any potential negatives.
In 2010, the American Society of Plastic Surgeons reported 219,000 surgical procedures on individuals ages 13 to 19 for a number of common reasons.

Given the overall popularity of cosmetic procedures, it is not surprising that more teens are asking to undergo some kind of augmentation, restructuring, or reduction. Cosmetic surgical procedures have become increasingly popular in the United States over the past ten years, jumping from 932,649 surgeries in 2000 to 996,982 in 2010.
Worried parents should actually take that as a positive. There are more highly skilled surgeons practicing solely in this field, and more medical facilities dedicated exclusively to cosmetic surgery than ever before. This equates to a greater likelihood of achieving a thorough evaluation and consultation and a positive outcome, if the decision to move forward is made.
Of the operations performed annually, the most popular are various kinds of breast and lip augmentations, followed by tummy tucks, eyelid surgery, face lifts, and nose jobs. The use of Botox is far and away the most frequently performed minimally invasive procedure, going from just 118,452 injections in 2000 to 1,969,718 in 2010.
Of this group, it is most likely teens would ask for a nose job. Surgeons who routinely perform this procedure have extensive before and after comparisons, and utilize highly advanced software for pre-surgical consultations, which will help to assure both the teen and the parents of a favorable result. Since the parents themselves will likely have some degree of familiarity with cosmetic procedures either on a personal level or because they know someone who has gone through the process, pre-surgical consultations can be carried out on a more informed level.
These surgeries are no longer the purview of the rich and famous only. Familiarity does not, however, mean that parents know how to talk to their teens about cosmetic changes, only that they are somewhat less likely to be “thrown" by the idea. Going into the consultation, it is crucial to remember that as a general rule, teens are not good at setting realistic expectations, an inability that can set them up for bitter disappointments.
This is an area where parents can and should safeguard their teen's best interests with rigorous questions about the surgeon and the surgery itself.

For most parents, this topic presents a serious dilemma since their first inclination is to simply say, “No." While parents are understandably worried about the danger to their child, this is not a request that should be taken lightly and most definitely not to be ignored.
Generally serious issues of self-image and self-esteem often lie at the heart of a teen's request to have a cosmetic procedure. These issues must all be fully addressed.
Parents should understand that there are circumstances under which cosmetic procedures for teenagers are both appropriate and life-enhancing. However there are as many bad reasons to agree to allow a young adult to seek cosmetic surgery, as there are good ones.
When a teen asks for a cosmetic procedure, the parents' first reaction should be calm. Agree to research the procedure and then follow through on that promise. There are many good resources at your disposal:

American Society of Plastic Surgeons at plasticsurgery.org:
Even if these resources do not cover the specific procedure being considered, they will help parents begin to understand the psychological reasons that lie beneath the request for the surgery.
"To a parent, every child is beautiful. But when kids hit their teens, they often become obsessed with physical imperfections – and in our media-drenched society, that can mean anything from a slightly crooked nose to a belly that isn't concave. It's no surprise that more and more teens are turning to plastic surgery to “fix" the flaws that bother them. Shows like “Extreme Makeover" and magazine features about celebrities have made cosmetic surgery seem like a rite of passage."

Any teen who wants to have a surgical cosmetic change must have the necessary emotional maturity to:
It is also possible that a teen will not have achieved the growth milestones necessary for the work to actually be performed. Most cosmetic procedures cannot take place until the body has stopped growing. Younger candidates for cosmetic procedures must be prepared to wait.
When both the parents and the teen understand the basics well enough to proceed with at least exploring surgery as a possibility, the parents should contact and interview several surgeons.
Initial discussions over the phone are fine, but when the list of candidates has been narrowed to two or three, in-office interviews are a must.

Allow the teenager to participate in all discussions about the viability of the procedure. Don't send them out of the doctor's office. The discussions involve a surgery that will be performed on their body, not yours. They have a right to know everything. Encourage them to ask their own questions and ensure that those questions are answered fully to your satisfaction and theirs.
Also, be aware that teenagers are naturally suspicious. If parents come out of a private consultation with the doctor and say, "The surgery is off because you're still growing," they may well think that's just a more complicated way to say, "No, you can't do this because I don't want you to."
The more experienced the plastic surgeon is, the better the chances are for the best results of the surgery.
Because of the increase in requested procedures, there has been an increase in the amount of surgeons who perform procedures without the proper training or licensing. Recognizing this, the medical community has established certain criteria and procedures to establish those surgeons allowed to perform cosmetic surgeries.
Board certification is the process established by a certain authority that a medical professional has achieved the education and experience necessary to certify them to practice medicine in a specific field. To name two important organizations.
These organizations require ABPS Board Certification from the surgeons in order for them to be members.

is the most prestigious association for plastic surgeons. They strongly believe in the patient’s right to know the credentials of their surgeon, and they have very strict guidelines of obtaining and maintaining membership. Only one quarter of the applicants are accepted into the association.

is perhaps the topmost organization for patient information. They publish literature and provide information on their website so patients considering plastic surgery can educate themselves on the various procedures.
Please note that the only two associations that require members to be board-certified plastic surgeons are the American Society of Plastic Surgeons (ASPS) and American Society for Aesthetic Plastic Surgery (ASAPS).
The more experienced the surgeon is, the better the chances are for the best results of the surgery. And naturally, the more experienced the plastic surgeon is, the more sought after are his or her services.
Read more: Plastic & Cosmetic Surgery Organizations & Associations Explained
If the surgeon is against the procedure, make sure the doctor lays all the reasons for the opinion out on the table for the teen to see in clear language.
It is extremely important that the young person not feel discounted or diminished by the decision not to proceed.

If the decision is not to proceed, be able to list for your teen the specific reasons why the procedure is not a good idea. Show specific proof. If, for instance, the teen has not grown sufficiently to undergo the operation, make it clear the option is not off the table and that the teen will be re-evaluated for the procedure when a specific amount of time has passed.
If the surgeon is against the procedure, make sure the doctor lays all the reasons for the opinion out on the table for the teen to see in clear language.

When all the real, medical considerations have been addressed, including:

Health insurance does not pay for cosmetic surgery. You may have a case for benefits if the procedure corrects a physical symptom that arguably improves the health of your teen, but be prepared for a fight. Especially in light of the recent health care reforms, and the push back from the insurance industry, carriers are not inclined to pay out any money for this kind of work.
Ask the doctor and the medical facility that will be used to provide an itemized estimate of the total costs of the procedure and compare that, line by line, to the final bill you receive.

Medical financing for plastic and cosmetic surgery is what is known as an unsecured loan. Unsecured loans typically have higher interest rates due to the increased risk for the lender, and are dependent upon your credit score. Most surgeons accept or offer themselves financing options for their plastic surgery procedures.
More information; Extensive Medical Financing Guide
The cost of plastic surgery is dependent on a few factors, cost for the actual procedure, amount of work involved, medications, anesthesia, medical tests, surgical garments or other miscellaneous fees related to the surgery. Be sure you get an itemized estimate of the total costs from your surgeon.
More information on cosmetic surgery cost: National Average Plastic Surgery - Break Down of Cost per Procedure 2010
Cosmetic surgeries generally not recommended for teenagers and young adults:


When teens look in the mirror, they focus on their most obvious features, often the nose and ears. Young girls become fixated on the size and symmetry of their breasts. Both genders struggle with the stigma of acne and the possibility of permanent scarring.
In the 13-19 age category, the most common cosmetic surgical procedure is breast reduction for males, accounting for 13,530 operations performed in 2010.
The next most popular surgeries in descending order were:
- Usually this procedure addresses protruding ears, which can be pinned back any time after the age of 5.
- Commonly this procedure is used to even out the shape of the nose by straightening the bridge or contouring the overall appearance to remove lumps or bulges. At the same time, the tip may be altered to improve breathing. Generally a "nose job" cannot be performed on girls until after age 15 to 16, and later on boys.
- This procedure is often conducted in tandem with dental work intended to correct issues with the bite pattern and the overall formation of the mouth. Normally a small implant enhances the shape of the chin, which in turn lengthens the jaw line and improves the profile.
- Essentially this is a procedure to smooth or refinish the skin with a fine sanding technique. Laser tools and chemical peels are also employed for this purpose.
- According to current FDA guidelines, breast augmentation with saline-filled implants can be performed on women age 18 years or older. In teens, this surgery is normally used to correct breast asymmetry, when one breast is as much as a full cup size smaller than the other.
- Although arguably one of the more questionable cosmetic procedures for teens, the increase in liposuction in this age group reflects the national problem of obesity in the younger generation. When a teen has been severely overweight and loses a significant amount of weight, both surgical skin removal and liposuction may be necessary to achieve a normal appearance.
The most popular minimally-invasive cosmetic procedures, in 2001, were laser treatment for leg veins, laser hair removal, laser skin resurfacing, microdermabrasion, sclerotherapy, and the use of fat tissue fillers (generally to augment facial features like the lips or cheeks).

Every year there are millions of people who have cosmetic surgical procedures without incident. The vast majority of those are adults, however. Beyond ensuring that you are dealing with a board certified and accredited medical professional who will thoroughly evaluate your child and give you an accurate recommendation, be prepared to address the real and tender emotions that underlie your teen's desire for the procedure.
Nothing hurts more than dashed expectations, not even the pain of a surgery. While cosmetic procedures can make astonishing changes, your child may well be envisioning alterations that are not realistic. Err on the side of over-preparation, seeking multiple consultations and insisting on seeing real-life "before and after" photos that validate the surgeon's skill.
Its equally important to address the specific risks of the procedure along with all of the standard pre- and post-op concerns. The teen must also know what they can reasonably expect as far as results and how different plastic surgery will make their anatomical parts look and feel.
It may seem like an obvious aspect of plastic surgery, but it's surprising how many people still fail to fully consider that their body will be altered permanently by a plastic surgery procedure.

Informed consent is the cornerstone of any physician-patient relationship. This is the heart of the decision-making process in which your teen should be fully involved and guided by both you as the parent and your doctor as the medical professional. Points that must be included in the discussions are:
There are clearly good and bad reasons for a teen to be allowed to undergo plastic surgery. It's actually quite difficult for anyone to say what is "right" or "wrong" when every case is different. The question of self-esteem and quality of life is central to the final decisions, and that determination is something only the parents, the teenager, and the doctor working in concert can properly evaluate. It is, however, a good touchstone to remember that if the surgery will enhance the teen's life, it is worth serious consideration.
If the teen's reasons are frivolous, however, and represent nothing more than a desire to "do what everyone else is doing," you have a different kind of problem on your hands. All parents should try to remember the complications of these highly emotional, formative years and not just dismiss a request for plastic surgery out of hand. That will only make your teen feel more diminished, which is not what you want. There are many good online resources and forums for both parents and teens to fully explore the issue of cosmetic surgery and to arrive at some degree of consensus.
Be smart. Do your homework. Look at all the relevant factors of cost, risk, reward, and recovery. This is not a subject about which to be indulgent, but as a parent, you are the person best positioned to evaluate the real reasons behind your teen's request to have a plastic surgery procedure and to respond appropriately to that request.

Additional useful information to assist you and your teen in making the decision for or against a cosmetic procedure can be found on the following pages:
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